If You're Happy And You Know It....
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I do get why people post this stuff. They mean no harm at all. They are usually super happy, smiley, ever cheerful people themselves, who are just lovin life SO much that they only want that for you as well. Because they love you. They love life. They want you to love life right there with them.
But really it's not always possible to CHOOSE to be happy, is it? I guess it is for some. I'm sure somewhere, at some time there was SOMEONE who got a terrible, life threatening diagnosis & it totally didn't piss on their parade. Right? I've yet to MEET that person. Or maybe I have. I dunno.
O & I were talkin about this sort of stuff the other day, and we came to the conclusion that, the majority of people who appear to be all Happy Happy Joy Joy, like ALL the time, have never had to face their own mortality or be concerned about where they & their family will sleep that night, or any stuff equally as terrifying. OR, the exact opposite is true. They are miserable, unhappy & just trying to find their way back to happy with these lovely affirmations.
I don't have issues anymore with seeing these quotes & stuff everywhere, really, so please don't think that's what this post is tryin to say...at all. I'm just sayin...folks, try to keep in mind that for some, Happy may just have to be put on hold for a bit. Could be a few hours, days, weeks....maybe even months or years. Some will never be happy again. I, thankfully, am not one of those people. I have found my way back to happy. For the most part. I could be wayhappier, too. But I can tell you this. There was a good long stretch of time that seein that stuff posted in my news feeds had the exact opposite effect for me.
Not sayin anybody should change anything about what they say or do, or post online, or feel or whatever. Just another random musing....thoughts...
I'm not sayin, I'm just sayin.
4 comments:
Kimberly, I love this post. Agreed, agreed. Personally, I think happy is way overrated. The happy proponents are good for people who have good lives but just don't know it. As for the rest of us...
Hey Eileen! Right? Just getting annoyed (again) with all the "happy, happy...joy, joy" bs passing my eyes.
I like this post a lot because it reminds me of all the times my feelings were minimized, especially during cancer.
I am a strong believer of "allowing yourself to go through all the emotions life offers" - This includes sadness and anger too. It is so important to go with the flow because that helps you heal. And most importantly, one must not rush it. Let it be but pay attention so not to fall too deep into the "hole."
Yes, being happy is great but I wonder how much of that happiness is created by "denial." Nothing wrong with "denial" of course... sometimes. Denial is an ingredient of survivorship, too.
I always think of Lisa's quote: “Find a bit of beauty in the world today.Share it. If you can’t find it, create it. Some days this may be hard to do.
Persevere.” This too has to do with creating happiness but we don't always feel like creating anything. And honestly, I think that's OK.
Being aware of pain is also a sign that we are humans. We have feelings! As long as we allow some transitions we should be OK.
Thanks for writing about this.
Hi Rebecca! Thanks so much for adding your thoughts here. I totally agree with each of these points you make. I experience the full range of emotions, sometimes all in the same hour. I just get tired of people trying to cram their brand of "happy" down my throat, ya know? Thanks so much for reading & commenting! xx
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